Fr Jim Cogley
One of the oldest symbols in the world is the Yin-Yang that dates back at least five thousand years to ancient China. While it represents the interplay of male and female elements in the universe, it is also a wonderful symbol of relationship. At the romantic level, when we first meet someone, it may feel like love at first sight. In reality, because we don’t know this person, our love can only be a projection where we see only what we want to see and love
what that seeing does for us. For some time we are blinded by infatuation and its only the bright side that we can see. Any hint that the beloved may carry a shadow side is dismissed or rejected. As most have discovered this being madly in love stage never lasts. In fact we need to fall out of love in order to enter into a truly loving relationship. When the bubble bursts and conflicts arise it feels as if its now only the dark side of the other that we see and we wonder how we could have been so blinded in the first place. The reality is that its not a question of ‘either or’ but more ‘both and’. None of us are all light, or all darkness but a mixture of both. This is where the projections begin to fall away and the challenge to truly love comes to the fore.
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