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Fr Jim Cogley

It’s so easy to feel resentful that others are not as we would want then to be. We want them to change, but can be so blind to where change is needed in us. A spiritual leader advised one time ‘to never seek a perfect person or a perfect world. Instead seek to perfect your love’. We will never have a perfect relationship or live in a perfect community, but we can work on ourselves. This often means dropping our judgments, and learning to accept people as they are, and reality just as it is. Most of us are familiar with the Prayer of AA. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Why not pray this version? God, grant me the serenity to accept the people and situations I cannot change. Courage, to change the one that I can. And, the wisdom to know that it’s ME.


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